![]() Get rid of that scarcity mindset-how can you give to people in your office? Your friends and family? This is a crucial step to shift your mentality and offer value. But this is a crucial step toward being indispensable.Īction Step: Think about how you can give more. I know it might be hard to give to others who underestimate you. And when people want to give to you, it’s hard for them to underestimate you. This leads to greater cooperation and a higher feeling of being indispensable. If you’re underestimated, giving to others helps: Science shows there are a host of great benefits to giving. They give gifts, their talents, and their unique skills to others. They give without expecting anything in return. The thing is, all indispensables are givers. And seeing him put a bright smile on my face. He was singing “Don’t Worry, Be Happy,” just like in this video: You couldn’t help but see the happiness radiate from his voice and energy. He was singing and playing his guitar and having the time of his life. But unlike the others who did it for money, this one was different. I was walking down the street one day when I ran into a street busker. This is your groundwork to never be underestimated! Every time you look at your success file, it should make you feel powerful and confident. These include kind emails, recommendations or endorsements, nice comments, letters and thank-you notes. Your success file is a collection of all of your strengths, capabilities, and successes. As for the students who underestimate themselves? They actually scored the highest! This study shows that the best performers may actually underestimate themselves.Īction Step: Start a success file. Interestingly, the students who overestimated their score actually scored the lowest. They then asked the students to score themselves. In another study, they surveyed undergrad students and asked them a series of questions about grammar, logic, and jokes. Do you know Dunning and Kruger? Those are the same researchers who came up with the Dunning-Kruger effect. Whew! This one should be a relief if you’re neurotic like me. The liking gap doesn’t only apply to strangers but personal relationships as well. It turns out, we are actually much more likable than we tell ourselves. They rated each other on how much they liked the other person and how much they thought the other person liked them. In a study titled The Liking Gap in Conversations, Yale students came into a lab and had a five-minute conversation with another participant. This makes us THINK they’ve underestimated us, but in reality, science says otherwise. ![]() ![]() Stranger bias is when we meet someone and automatically assume they don’t like us. ![]() However, those who were left in the dark actually underestimated their abilities! We constantly need an influx of feedback-if you’re not given it, go looking for it! In one study, people performed tasks equally well when given feedback or not. Are others reaffirming how well you’re doing? Science says feedback matters. Here’s why you might be underestimating yourself (or being underestimated by others): The first step in your journey to becoming indispensable is to realize the WHY of being underestimated-with science, of course! ![]()
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